Mariah Carey’s Ex-Husband in Memoir: ‘Yes I Was Obsessive’

Even though Mariah Carey has previously described her marriage with Tommy Mottola as a “private hell,” the noted recording industry executive does not look at it that way. In a new memoir to be released next week, Mottola admits to have been obsessive with Mariah Carey and offers somewhat of an apology (while taking full credit for her success).

“If it seemed like I was controlling,” he writes in an excerpt from the book, “I apologize. Was I obsessive? Yes. But that was also part of the reason for her success.”

According to Mottola, who documents their relationship from start to finish in the memoir, his therapist warned him not to pursue Mariah Carey. In fact, he says she told him that Mariah was not his equal – mentally, emotionally or professionally.

“I can only now wonder about the expression on my therapist’s face when . . . she saw Mariah thank God for that first Grammy, and then Tommy Mottola for believing in her,” he writes. “She could no longer call me delusional.”

As noted during the early years of Carey’s career, Mottola took control of everything and put Carey through what she described in interviews as “hell.” Today, he doesn’t regret making sure that she kept working, taking no breaks.

“My feeling was that there’d be plenty of time for Mariah to celebrate just a little ways down the road,” he writes. “I’m not talking 10 years, just a few.”

Tommy Mottola’s memoir, “Hitmaker,” is due Tuesday, Jan. 15, just one day before Mariah Carey makes her television debut on “American Idol.”

Below is a description of the book in its entirety…

“HITMAKER recounts how a kid from the Bronx–and a college dropout–became one of the music industry’s most creative and controversial CEOs. For the first time, Tommy lays bare the facts behind the most sensational aspects of his life, such as being married to and developing the career of Mariah Carey, managing Michael Jackson’s emotional ups and downs, and the power struggle with his onetime boss and mentor Walter Yetnikoff. HITMAKER will take you inside this world of power, money, and fame as he recounts the fascinating dealings with countless icons, and what it was like to be at the top when the business suddenly changed. Tommy’s story is one that will never be duplicated–and here it is, in his own voice, for the first time.” — Grand Central Publishing.

C: New York Post/GCP

Mariah Carey is one of the most iconic singers and songwriters in pop music history. Yet, her personal life has been a whirlwind over the years. Her former husband and Sony Music executive, Tommy Mottola, recently released his memoir titled “Hitmaker: The Man & His Music.” In it he speaks candidly about his relationship with Mariah Carey – including how he was “obsessive” and trying to control her career while they were together. This article will explore what exactly Mottola said about their time together and its implications for both parties involved.

The pair met in 1988 when she was just 18-years-old, already signed to Columbia Records as an up-and-coming artist. With him being 22 years older than her and at the peak of his career as head of Sony’s music division, it wasn’t long before the two got married in 1993. However by 1998 they had divorced after five tumultuous years together that included accusations on both sides regarding infidelity, abuse, and manipulation.

Now with Mottola’s new book revealing details about their marriage from his perspective, readers are given insight into why things ended between them so abruptly. For many fans who have followed their lives since then this could be enlightening but also shocking news; especially considering neither party ever really provided a public explanation or closure on why they split apart so suddenly all those years ago.

Tommy Mottola’s Reflections

Tommy Mottola, the former husband of Mariah Carey, is speaking out in his newly released memoir. In it, he reflects on their tumultuous marriage and admits that at times, he was obsessive. He explains that during this period of his life, he felt insecure and jealous as a result of his fame and success.

Mottola remembers how difficult it was to juggle both their public lives while maintaining the intimate connection they had when they began dating. His feelings of possessiveness were born from fear and insecurity which caused him to act in an unhealthy way towards her. Despite these shortcomings, he says there are moments with Carey that still bring joy to his life today.

Though things didn’t work out between them romantically, Mottola now looks back fondly on the time before their divorce. The couple managed to build something beautiful together despite all odds—and for that reason alone, Tommy will be forever grateful for the opportunity to have been part of such a monumental love story.

Relationship Dynamics Examined

In his memoir, Mottola takes a deep dive into the dynamics of their relationship. He examines how fame and success can often lead to feelings of insecurity, possessiveness and jealousy in relationships. These issues are further exacerbated when both partners have demanding public lives that make it difficult to maintain personal connection.

Mottola reflects on how he allowed his fear and insecurity to cloud some parts of his marriage with Carey. His feelings of protectiveness led him to act out of character at times—something he now regrets. However, despite these moments, there were also those special memories they shared together which still bring him joy today.

Ultimately, this is a story about two people who created something beautiful against all odds; even though things didn’t work out between them romantically, Tommy will always be grateful for having had such an incredible experience with Mariah Carey.

Conclusion

In his memoir, Tommy Mottola opens up about his relationship with Mariah Carey and reflects on his own behavior. He acknowledges that he was obsessive in their marriage, admitting that he tried to control her career and life decisions. It’s clear from his account that their dynamic wasn’t a healthy one; however, it’s also evident that the two cared deeply for each other at some point.

Mottola’s memoir is an important reminder of how complicated relationships can be. Even if there are moments of love between two people, it doesn’t necessarily mean the relationship is healthy or sustainable. His story serves as a cautionary tale for anyone considering entering into a partnership with someone who may have difficulty respecting boundaries or allowing them freedom to make choices for themselves.

Ultimately, we should all strive to become better partners by learning from our mistakes and making sure we don’t repeat them in future relationships. We owe it to ourselves and those around us to create safe spaces where both parties involved are respected and valued without expectation or manipulation. Hopefully Mottola’s candid reflections will help others learn what not to do when they enter into any kind of union moving forward.