Kick Rocks: 3 Reasons Men Try To Wiggle Their Way Back Into The Picture

Why do so many guys seem to think that if you once liked them, that interest never fades? Maybe that’s the case for them but for us women, on the other hand, not so much. We can literally be head over heels for you one year and then the next year squeem at the thought of even kissing you. I don’t know how it works out that way but it does. We women are just capable of doing that. Could be the fact that we’re not as used to rejection (in any form) as you are! *Take notes male friends*

Anyway! Here’s what I need to know: When these men try to make their way back into our lives, What The Heck Are They Thinking? What’s the motive? Where do they get the balls to re-approach us after a not so successful first attempt? If you share in this curiosity ladies, then look no further. Our boys over at Single Black Man, provided some different insight outside of your usual “I’ve changed for the better baby.” Here’s some reasons why men almost always come back:

#1 Sometimes we want to see whether or not you’ve changed…

Contrary to popular belief, we men are human. We do catch the vapors every once in awhile. The only thing better than meeting an awesome new woman is meeting an old girlfriend who now seems way more awesome than she was when you were with her. I’m sure social networking sites like facebook go a long way in exacerbating this. An old flame uploads new pictures and, voila, her phone turns into the “hey, it’s me, it’s been a minute…” hotline. When we’re interested in getting to know the new you our interest is not genuine. It’s more of a novelty. We want to prove to ourselves, and to you, that we didn’t make a mistake the first time around. That you’re not really that different, that the thing about you that always annoyed us is still there just below the glossy airbrushed surface of your new professionally taken profile pic. We want to find out whether you’ve been doing hella squats and that’s all you back there or whether that’s just an awesome camera angle. We want to know if that nonchalant confidence you exuded when you jetted off after briefly chatting with us when we bumped into you on the street was actually real confidence or the product of many-a-night spent practicing everything you’d say and do should you happen to randomly run into us somewhere. Again, if this is why we’re coming back, it’s selfish and we might as well stay gone.

#2 Sometimes We’re Just Being Manipulative…

Here’s a secret about some of us men I probably shouldn’t be telling. Sometimes, we just want control. Many of us went through a period in our lives where our most valuable talent was our ability to exert an unhealthy amount of control over the women we were dealing with. The thing about having that sort of control is that it makes it impossible to build any sort of lasting relationship. If we can control you, we can’t respect you. We can pretend to, but, in reality we don’t. The two things women reading this should take from this point are:

1) Never let a man have full control over you unless that man has married you.
2) If a man who once had that sort of control over you reappears, we probably just want to see if we still have it.

Be honest with yourself. If you’re unsure of whether or not you really are free, then when we come back, you need to run. Just run. Don’t be embarrassed, don’t try to prove to us that you’re free, just run the other way because you’re about to go through that same thing you went through all that time ago. I wish we weren’t this way, but sometimes, some of us are.

#3 Sometimes, We Realize What We’ve Lost and Are Ready to be Whatever We Need To Be To Get It Back…

Smh… makes sense though. To read the last 2 reasons why men almost always come back, check out SBM.

Haha. Interesting. At least it all finally makes sense. If you want him back, make sure that you live up to the new expectations that you’ve set for yourselves ladies via those FB/Instagram pics. Think they skipped out on some deets ladies and gents? Got some stories of your own to share? Got some more questions about why men always try to wiggle their way back into the picture? Leave your comments below and we’ll get to the bottom of it for ya. Guys leave your questions too!

Until next time!

@ChazeenP

@WWMDtv

Are you a woman who has ever been played by an ex? If so, then you know how infuriating it can be when the guy that wronged you tries to wiggle his way back into your life. Unfortunately, men have a tendency of kickin’ rocks and coming back around like nothing happened – but why is this? In this article we’ll explore three reasons men try to come back after being rejected or dumped. So if you’re fed up with dealing with these guys, keep reading for more insight about their behavior!

First off, let’s talk about ego. Many times when someone gets rejected they feel as though their pride has taken a hit and they want to prove themselves in some way. Men often think that because they were once accepted by the person they are trying to get back with, that the same should still apply now even after rejection. This leads them to believe they can easily regain what was lost without putting much effort into it – which usually isn’t true.

Another reason could be insecurity. No matter how confident someone may seem on the outside, there is always going to be something inside that makes us doubt ourselves from time-to-time. When faced with rejection many people will go out of their way to “fix” whatever problem caused said rejection in order to make sure it never happens again; especially if it’s something that made them fear abandonment or other types of loss within the relationship itself (i.e., trust).

So these are just two theories behind why men might attempt to worm their way back into your life after being given the boot: either due to ego or insecurity…or both! Don’t worry though, next up we’ll discuss ways in which women can handle such situations better so stay tuned!

What Is “Kicking Rocks”?

Kicking rocks is a phrase used to describe when someone tries to get back into contact with an ex-partner after being rejected or ignored. It involves the person sending messages, calling, and attempting to make conversation in hopes of reconciling their relationship. This can be done out of love, guilt, or even just curiosity about what could have been if things had gone differently.

There are many reasons why men might attempt this seemingly desperate act. Some may feel guilty for how they treated their partner during the course of the relationship while others may still have strong feelings for them that won’t go away no matter how hard they try. Additionally, some may simply feel like they want to check up on their former partners and see where life has taken them since the split occurred.

Whatever the case may be, it’s important to understand both sides before making any assumptions or passing judgement as each situation is unique and complex in its own way. In every breakup there are two stories waiting to be told – one from the dumper and one from the dumped – so if you find yourself in either position it’s essential that everyone involved takes time to process their emotions and move forward at their own pace.

Reasons Men Try To Reengage

Despite the two parties moving on from each other, it’s not uncommon for men to try and wiggle their way back into a former partner’s life. While this can be seen as disrespectful or intrusive, there are legitimate reasons why someone may feel compelled to reach out again. Here are three of them:

1) Guilt: Often times when things don’t work out in relationships, one party feels more responsible than the other. This guilt can be enough to drive an ex-partner to reestablish contact with their former flame. As painful as breakups can be, they also afford us an opportunity for growth and self-reflection – something that many people take advantage of by trying to make amends with those they’ve hurt in the past.

2) Longing: Even after a breakup has been accepted and both parties have moved on, sometimes old feelings bubble up unexpectedly. In these cases, it isn’t unusual for someone to attempt reconnection if only just to chat about how life has changed since the split occurred. Whether or not anything further develops is another story but it’s understandable why someone would want closure on such a personal matter regardless of its outcome.

Unresolved issues: Last but certainly not least, unresolved issues may prompt someone to reach out once more despite agreeing to go their separate ways. It could simply be a need for clarity or understanding; what seemed like small matters at first can often become bigger problems over time if left unaddressed. For some individuals, making peace with any lingering questions is necessary before being able to move forward fully in life which leads them back down familiar paths one last time before saying goodbye forever.

Conclusion

Kicking rocks is a phrase used to describe the act of letting go and moving on. People use it when they’re done with someone or something – in this case, men who have been rejected by women. It’s not always easy for guys to accept rejection and move on, so sometimes they’ll try to wiggle their way back into the picture. While there are many reasons why a man might attempt this, here are three of the most common:

First, some men may feel like they deserve another chance after being turned down initially. They think that if they can just get their foot in the door again, then things will be different this time around. Second, some men may simply be afraid of being alone and don’t want to face up to reality. Finally, others may hope that if they keep trying hard enough, eventually the woman will give them an opportunity to prove themselves.

Though all these motives come from a place of vulnerability and uncertainty, it’s important for men (and everyone else) to remember that it’s okay not to pursue something which isn’t meant to be pursued. Kicking rocks is often necessary in order for us all to find our true paths in life – though it can be difficult at times, it’s ultimately worth it!