We often watch others go through their ups & downs in their relationships, and it looks so crazy until we are in the same situation. Insanity is doing the same thing and expecting different results. How about if the same thing is a person? Relationships are dynamic and complex…it is more complex than black and white. There are colors and layers to this relationship thing. Rihanna and Chris Brown have been through crazy "stuff" right before our eyes. Kanye and Kim seem to have their disagreements also. Beyonce and Jay-Z seem look like the super perfect couple, but no couple is perfect. Wiz and his boo thing Amber seem like they never fight. (Wiz is probably too high to fight.) We could talk about the Love & Hip Hop triangle with Mimi, Joseline and Stevie J, but regardless of how the relationship seems or looks people have problems in relationships…it is inevitable. How do you perceive proper relationship problems from break up problems? We are not going to judge, but we will try to help you point out twelve quick indicators that might mean you need to leave someone alone.
Staying together forever is beautiful and people need to push it to the limit, but sometimes people may end up hurting and damaging the other person in the process. Hopefully these indicators will help you prevent damage or doing the whole back and forth thing. Just because you love someone doesn't mean you have to be with them. Sometimes the best thing to do is to love them from afar.
Let us know some of your experiences and indicators. There may be someone that needs help to move on.
Who do you think needs to let it go?
A. Rihanna & Chris Brown
B. Mimi & Stevie J
C. Joseline & Stebie J
D. Rasheedah & Kirk
E. Lil Scrappy & Erica
F. Kanye & Kim
Not Truly Proud â¦
For whatever reason you are not excited or motivated to introduce people to your partner so you just say, “This is [name].” You may do this consciously or subconsciously.
Not Seeing Eye to Eye â¦
If they can not agree with you on issues like parenting, finances and hygiene it might be time to keep it moving.
Intense Fighting â¦
Disagreeing is natural part of a relationship but intense fighting that ends up with talks of BREAKING UP or VIOLENCE is not healthy for the relationship. Once someone gets violent what will stop them from being violent again?
Not Thoughtful â¦
Men and women alike want to feel special and feel like they have been thought about. Flowers, teddy bears, kiss on the forehead are all thoughtful and affectionate gestures that help to smooth out all the rough times. If you do not have this in your relationship or you don’t have enough there has to be a change.
Sexual Healing â¦
You and your partner do not connect on the sexual level. Sex can relieve a lot of stress, frustration and pent up anger. If you do not have this connection it can become very difficult and lead to cheating.
Lack of Encouragement â¦
If the person always brings you down and is not a positive force in your life you might have to exhale.
Do Not Enjoy Their Company â¦
You act like you won the lottery when they are not around.
Flirting with Others â¦
You may not cheating but sometimes flirting can get pretty damn close. A lot of people always keep someone on the side. When things get rough are you communicating more with that side person? Are you venting to someone that you know likes you?
Lack of Respect â¦
You do not respect each others opinions and feelings.
If this list was in a specific order this would be at the top. It all starts or ends with communication. If a person is uncomfortable or afraid to express themselves that can create friction. Your partner can not feel like they are shut up or they will stop communicating. If you can’t express yourself to your partner it might be time to let it go but first seek help.
Family & Friends â¦
If your family and friends are not fond of your special someone there might be a reason. This is definitely a warning sign…pay attention.
Your significant other is always jealous. He/she feels all of your friends of the opposite sex “want you”. There is a lack of trust in the relationship. Keep it trucking if it gets crazy.