The Sexiness In Finding Your Sex Appeal

When I was younger I used to hate my body. I was always too skinny, too tall, my hair was too short or too thin, eyes were too large, ass too small, feet too big, if you named the body part I had a problem with it. It wasn’t until I was 18 that I stopped allowing myself to down myself and started to accept my body and explore what worked and didn’t work for me.

I’ve found over the past few years that too often women don’t take responsibility for their sexy and try to obsessively work on the things they feel are flaws. Now, I’m not saying there is anything wrong with going to the gym to shed a few extra pounds or to shape up. By all means do what’s best for your health and wellness but also embrace your body for what it is because how you feel about yourself will spill over to how you interact with others. If you’re confident and happy with the skin you’re in then others will see that, but if you are self-conscious that negativity you feel will also show.

Coco Chanel once said, “There is no such thing as an ugly woman, but only women who do not know how to make themselves beautiful.” For years this quote has been stored in my memory but I never understood it fully because I always felt that there wasn’t much a woman could do to change her appearance. However, I realized that it isn’t about changing how you look, but changing how you feel about how you look and enhancing the qualities you possess that make you fabulous.

As women, we are all beautiful and it is up to us to choose our image and not let our image choose us. This month I am going to focus on loving ourselves and finding and accepting our unique selves. To be happy with someone else, it is important that we are first happy with ourselves. Confidence isn’t built overnight and isn’t an automatic trait of beautiful people (surprisingly, the most beautiful women usually have the lowest self-esteem). It is an acquired trait of women who have taken the time to really find themselves, love themselves, and accept themselves for who they honestly are – flaws and all.

About Carla Clunis
You can find more of Carla’s musings on love and relationships at where she blogs about the ups and downs of dating and relating.

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—— By: Carla Clunis


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