How to Get Out of the Friend Zone

Having friends is great…until you realize you have a crush on one of them. You don’t want to risk losing your friendship, but you know that you’ll never forgive yourself if you don’t at least find out if the feeling is mutual. Moving out of the friend zone can be a hard transition, but here are five tips to help you get started.

1. Do show interest
If you want to change your title from “friend” to “special friend,” it’s important to show that person that you’re interested. Flirting innocently could do the trick.

2. Do suggest non-group outings
If you normally only hang out with your friend of interest in groups, it’s essential to carve out some one-on-one time to make your move. Ask him or her to accompany you to a work function or to a movie on the weekends. If he or she agrees, there might be a mutual interest but don’t assume so until he or she gives you the green light.

3. Don’t disclose everything
While you should make it clear that you’re interested, don’t pour your heart out. It could potentially scare the person away, and even worse, it could ruin your friendship.

4. Do make hints to mutual friends

If the two of you have mutual friends, you could always hint that you’re fond of the particular guy or girl. Having a wingman or wingwoman in your corner could potentially work in your favor.

5. Don’t act differently if things don’t work out
If he or she doesn’t want to pursue a relationship and would prefer to remain friends, respect his or her decision and act as you normally would. It’ll allow you to continue to grow as friends, and focus on pursuing someone else who is interested.

—— By: Crystal Tate


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