Ok so, I’ve never actually been asked to pay for dinner BUT, most recently, a guy got pretty freaking close to doing it! lol
Here’s the Big Question of the Day: When the bill comes…Who should pay for it?
“Not I” said the cat. Lately, there have been a lot of discussions on the WWMD pages addressing the topic of 1st dates/dinner dates and who should pay. On one hand, you have females like my co-host NK who’s more than willing to pay and then you have females like myself and Guerdley who feel like… “ehhhh… that’s not really necessary.”
“Trifling” you call it? I’m praying that I can get a date after this but my loyalty is with you, my readers, so I’ll make a sacrifice.
Why Should a Female Never Have to Pay on a 1st Date?
Well, I feel that it is very important to allow men and woman to live up to the expectations for their roles in society. As Steve Harvey put it, “A man’s role is to provide for the female” and I agree. Now a female could offer to pay for a date every once in a while but she’ll only do this or SHOULD only do this if she is completely feeling the guy…like they are both serious about each other…no trace of unrequited feelings.
Why do I say this? Because it means so much more when a female pays…why lead a guy on? Why give him a reason to already believe that this relationship is more serious than it is? and lets be honest, although you’ll offer (which is what you probably should do as a saving grace for the male ego) you don’t really want to pay anyway so there’s no need to attribute that much thought to this debate.
Now, a Male’s Argument: Why invest money in something that is not surefire?
Read the male’s side of this argument at What Would A man Do? : http://bit.ly/nmQ5Hu
—— By: Chazeen of WWMD
It’s a scene that many of us can relate to: You’re out on a date, and the bill arrives. He reaches for it and you feel relieved—until he says those dreaded words: “Why don’t you pay this time?” Your biggest nightmare has just come true! But is there more than meets the eye when it comes to who pays for dinner? In this article, we’ll look at WWMD Talk (What Would My Date Do?) and explore why some men are asking women to split or even cover the cost of their meals.
We all know that money matters can be tricky when it comes to dating. Should someone always pick up the tab? Or should couples take turns footing the bill? It’s not as straightforward as you might think. This article will discuss gender roles in modern relationships and how they shape our expectations about paying for dates. We’ll also explore different strategies for navigating awkward conversations around money with grace and kindness.
So if you’ve ever been left wondering “should I offer to pay?”, read on to find out what would your date do! This thought-provoking article will provide insights into male-female dynamics while exploring practical solutions that both parties can appreciate.
Unspoken Dating Rules
Dating can be a minefield of unspoken rules and expectations. It’s easy to get overwhelmed or confused when trying to navigate the seemingly endless list of dos and don’ts. One rule that is often overlooked is who pays for dinner on a date? Although it is generally accepted that whoever extends the invitation should pay, in some cases this expectation may not be clear or could even go unstated.
My biggest nightmare happened one evening when I was out with someone I had been dating for only a few weeks. We’d had an enjoyable meal together, but at the end of the night he asked me to pay for my share! My heart sank; I hadn’t expected him to ask me to do something so unexpected, especially after such a short amount of time together. In hindsight, I wish we had discussed our financial expectations upfront before going out and avoided any awkwardness later on.
To prevent similar situations from arising in future dates, it’s important to have conversations about money as soon as possible. This way both people are aware of their financial responsibilities right away — no surprises!
Gender Roles In Finances
It’s no secret that gender roles still play a large role in many aspects of our lives, including finances. While it is becoming more socially acceptable for women to take the lead on financial matters, there are still expectations about who should pay for things like meals and entertainment when going out with someone. It can be difficult for both men and women to navigate these expectations without appearing rude or disrespectful.
The best way to make sure everyone involved feels comfortable and respected is to discuss money upfront. This means having an honest conversation about each person’s individual financial situation and what they expect from their partner when it comes to splitting costs or taking turns paying. This will eliminate any confusion while also being respectful of one another’s boundaries.
No matter how you decide to handle payment issues between you and your date, remember that communication is key! Openly discussing finances right away will help ensure that both parties feel heard and respected throughout your relationship — regardless of which gender takes the lead financially.
Conclusion
I never thought I’d be in a situation where he asked me to pay for dinner. It’s something I’ve heard happens but it was still shocking when it happened to me. Not only did this make me feel disrespected, but confused too; why wasn’t he living up to the unspoken dating rule of paying for dinner if he invited me out?
It felt like an attack on gender roles, and at first I couldn’t believe what had just occurred. After taking some time to process the situation though, I realized that there isn’t one universal answer as to who should foot the bill. Everyone has their own views on finances and how they want them approached within relationships. While it may not always align with my expectations or values, respecting those differences is key in any successful relationship.
In hindsight, although uncomfortable and unexpected, asking me to pay for dinner opened up an important conversation between us about money that we otherwise wouldn’t have had. Moving forward, I’m now more aware of my date’s financial boundaries so that neither party feels awkward or taken advantage of during future outings together.
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