When I was younger I used to hate my body. I was always too skinny, too tall, my hair was too short or too thin, eyes were too large, ass too small, feet too big, if you named the body part I had a problem with it. It wasn’t until I was 18 that I stopped allowing myself to down myself and started to accept my body and explore what worked and didn’t work for me.
I’ve found over the past few years that too often women don’t take responsibility for their sexy and try to obsessively work on the things they feel are flaws. Now, I’m not saying there is anything wrong with going to the gym to shed a few extra pounds or to shape up. By all means do what’s best for your health and wellness but also embrace your body for what it is because how you feel about yourself will spill over to how you interact with others. If you’re confident and happy with the skin you’re in then others will see that, but if you are self-conscious that negativity you feel will also show.
Coco Chanel once said, “There is no such thing as an ugly woman, but only women who do not know how to make themselves beautiful.” For years this quote has been stored in my memory but I never understood it fully because I always felt that there wasn’t much a woman could do to change her appearance. However, I realized that it isn’t about changing how you look, but changing how you feel about how you look and enhancing the qualities you possess that make you fabulous.
As women, we are all beautiful and it is up to us to choose our image and not let our image choose us. This month I am going to focus on loving ourselves and finding and accepting our unique selves. To be happy with someone else, it is important that we are first happy with ourselves. Confidence isn’t built overnight and isn’t an automatic trait of beautiful people (surprisingly, the most beautiful women usually have the lowest self-esteem). It is an acquired trait of women who have taken the time to really find themselves, love themselves, and accept themselves for who they honestly are – flaws and all.
About Carla Clunis
You can find more of Carla’s musings on love and relationships at www.theheartmalfunctions.com where she blogs about the ups and downs of dating and relating.
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—— By: Carla Clunis
Are you feeling lost when it comes to finding your sex appeal? Don’t worry, we’ve all been there. But the great news is that with a few simple tips and tricks, you can be on your way to discovering something special about yourself – something that will make you feel confident and sexy! In this article, we’ll take a look at how to find your sex appeal and why it’s so important for personal growth. Read on to learn more about uncovering the sexiness within!
It doesn’t matter whether you’re young or old, male or female – everyone has an inner sensuality that deserves to be explored and celebrated. Finding your own unique sex appeal means taking time to get in touch with what makes you attractive both inside and out. It could be as small as wearing clothes that bring out your best features or investing in experiences that fill you with joy and confidence.
Finding our own sexual power can have profound effects not just on our relationships but also on our mental wellbeing too. When we embrace the beauty of being alive and recognize the pleasure in life, then true self-love starts to emerge. So if you want to start enjoying the full potential of who you are, keep reading–we’ve got some invaluable advice coming up!
What Is Sex Appeal?
Sex appeal can be difficult to define. It’s a combination of physical attractiveness, charm and confidence that creates an overall alluring effect. Sex appeal also involves the ability to draw attention without trying too hard or appearing desperate for it. In essence, sex appeal is about being comfortable in your own skin and exuding an aura of self-assurance.
One way to bring out your sex appeal is by taking care of yourself physically. This means eating right, getting enough exercise and making sure you look polished and put together on the outside. Going beyond just having good hygiene, you should take pride in how you present yourself when going out into the world – choose clothing that flatters your figure and accentuates your assets while maintaining a sense of modesty. Additionally, make sure you have proper posture when standing or sitting as this can do wonders for improving body image and boosting self-confidence.
Another key factor in finding sexiness within yourself is building up your inner strength through positive thinking and self-affirmation techniques. Keep reminding yourself why you’re attractive; focus on what makes you unique instead of comparing yourself to others who may seem more desirable than you. With practice and a bit of time devoted to developing personal power, anyone can learn to feel sexy from the inside out!
Ways To Discover Your Own Sexiness
Once you have established a foundation of self-love and confidence, it’s time to uncover your inner sexiness. One way to do this is by engaging in activities that make you feel good about yourself – things like taking up a new hobby or pampering yourself with a spa day can help boost feelings of worthiness and desirability. Additionally, don’t be afraid to explore different styles of dress and makeup; even small changes such as switching out an old pair of shoes for more stylish ones can help unleash your own personal brand of sex appeal.
It’s also important to recognize the power of flirting. While not everyone may be comfortable doing so, learning the basics – knowing when someone is looking at you, making eye contact, complimenting them – will give you the confidence needed to take your newfound sexiness out into the world. Don’t forget that being playful and having fun are key components too!
Finally, practice makes perfect when it comes to finding your sex appeal. It’s okay if something doesn’t work right away; just keep trying until you find what feels best for you. With patience and dedication, anyone can learn how to embrace their inner sexy side and use it as a tool for success in both romance and life in general.
Conclusion
Finding your sex appeal starts with understanding what it means. Sex appeal is a combination of physical, psychological, and emotional traits that make someone attractive in a sexual way. Once you understand what sex appeal is, the next step is to discover yours. It’s important to recognize that everyone has their own unique style and characteristics that add to the sexy package they present.
Start by exploring different aspects of yourself that make you feel confident and comfortable in your own skin. Whether it’s wearing clothes that fit well or using makeup to accentuate certain features – do whatever makes you feel good about yourself! Don’t be afraid to experiment and try new things until you find something that works for you. You might even surprise yourself with how great it feels when you start embracing all those little things about yourself.
At its core, finding your sex appeal boils down to being unapologetically true to who you are. When we embrace our quirks and accept ourselves for who we are flaws and all – it radiates through us like an energy force field which can be incredibly powerful and attractive! So take pride in who you are and let your inner light shine through – because this is where real sexiness lies!
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