That pretty apocalyptic moment when he doesn’t compliment you on the day you know you’re looking good… Like dude, you don’t see all of this? *points at everything* You can’t ask him why he didn’t compliment you, because quite frankly, who does that? So you gotta deal with it. For some of us, we’re over it before we were under it. For others, the crafty ones, we rely on our handy stash of sweet nothing whisperers to supply our regular fix of validation. And who he be? The guy you know will always like your pic, fawn over your look, shower you with attention, and basically gushes about how you’re the best thing since Coconut Ciroc. Well maybe not all of that, but something reminiscent. Go ahead and roll your eyes at the aforementioned juvenileness or from a 1-D perspective âinsecurity. But Freud ain’t no fool – in every grown-ass woman, there’s a girl twirling in a dress asking if she looks pretty. And for every guy that says “Hell yes,” mental notes are taken. After all, flattery will get you everywhere.
Now everywhere tends to include a lot of locations, including run arounds. To make sure that these purveyors of sweet nothings don’t end up nice guys turned bitter, ladies we gotta keep a firm grasp on our attention whoring, meaning we have to know when we’re more into the attention he gives than we are actually into him.
Here are few red flags that should help your cause and dignify some men in the process:
1. We Get Aggy When We’re Not Complimented … Whether he’s your back-up guy or a hopeful prisoner locked in the friend zone, he serves a purpose. And on those days that he’s not there, or available, or even in the mood to fawn, it feels like his purpose has been unfulfilled. You may even begin to wonder why he’s around because his lack of attention comes off as a robbery, as if he’s depriving you of something owed. When you’re truly into someone you may notice and get disappointed, but it’s not going to compromise how you feel about them or whether or not they should kick rocks.
2. We Don’t Get Jelly Over Other Girls That Like His Pics … You know damn well you’re giving those ‘like’ clicks a slight graze when his shots pop up on that feed. You may even have to eye in on a few comments from time to time, because as we all know âchick’s be thirsty. This although petty, is a true indicator of genuine interest. If you’re not doing them for him, you’re just not about that genuinely into him life.
3. We Don’t Know Or Care About The Last Time He Called Us … There are some people you may love when you see, but when you don’t see them, they’re out of sight and out of mind. If he’s one of them it’s for a reason.
4. We Don’t Feel Any Lust For Dude. Not A Drop. Let’s face it. We women know if and when he’s getting the red light special. We had it figured out at “Hello,” “Excuse me,” or “Where’s the bathroom?” If you “don’t know” by now if he’s eligible for it, it’s because he’s not. The lust isn’t there, which means that the love (as in ‘In love’) is even farther.
Overall, there’s nothing wrong with loving the way someone makes you feel. It’s just important to know why you love the way they make you feel. Do they empower your spirit or your ego? The latter will eventually bring out your ugliness, and then nobody will think you’re pretty. So please fellow CGS sufferers, make sure you identify that those initial swooning feelings are truly butterflies and not the light headedness from all that helium he pumped.
Good Times Pals!
We all want to feel appreciated, and most of us enjoy the occasional compliment. But when it comes to relationships, too much flattery can be a sign that something isn’t right. When we’re in love with someone, their compliments should make us smile – not make us question why they said them in the first place. In this article, we’ll go over four signs that could mean you’re enjoying his flattery more than him. So if you’ve been wondering what’s going on in your relationship, read on!
When you’re trying to decide whether or not a person truly loves you, words often speak louder than actions. If he constantly showers you with compliments but doesn’t do anything else for you, then it may be time to reconsider how important these compliments really are. Does he genuinely care about your wellbeing or is he simply using sweet talk as an excuse for neglecting deeper issues?
Finally, does his “love language” consist solely of flattery? You might think it cute at first, but if it becomes the only way he expresses affection towards you then there could be underlying problems with communication and trust within the relationship. It takes much more effort than just saying nice things to build strong connections between two people – so ask yourself: Is he putting in enough work into our bond?
Reasons Why You May Be Attracted To Flattery
When we’re attracted to someone, it’s easy to become flattered by their compliments. After all, everyone likes feeling appreciated and accepted for who they are. But sometimes, the flattery can be more attractive than the person themselves! Here are some signs that you may be interested in a person’s flattering words rather than them as an individual.
One sign is if you feel like your connection with the other person isn’t really there beyond the surface level conversations they have with you. When this happens, it could mean that instead of being drawn to each other due to genuine interest or shared values, you’re both just enjoying the attention from one another. This kind of ‘relationship’ would make it much easier for either of you to move on without any real attachments getting hurt.
Another sign is if every conversation between the two of you revolves around them complimenting you and nothing else. If this becomes a pattern, it could be because neither of your want to get too close since then things might change drastically for either party involved. An easy way out would be to focus on what each person finds enjoyable about talking together: namely praising each other as often as possible!
It’s important to acknowledge these feelings so that when things start shifting toward something more serious, both parties know exactly where they stand with one another. Otherwise, someone could end up getting hurt once reality starts sinking in and expectations don’t match up with what was promised before. Being aware of yourself and understanding why certain feelings arise can help avoid those situations altogether.
Warning Signs That You Are Prioritizing Flattery Over The Relationship
It’s easy to get carried away with flattery, especially when it comes from someone you’re attracted to. However, if the relationship starts becoming more one-sided and focused on compliments rather than real conversations or meaningful connections, then this could be a warning sign that something isn’t right. Here are some other red flags that indicate you may be prioritizing flattery over developing an actual relationship:
If there is never any effort put into getting to know each other beyond superficial topics like physical appearance or interests, this can be a major indicator of how much value is being placed on the compliments exchanged between the two people. A friendship should involve both parties actually putting in effort to learn about each other through deeper conversations and activities together. If all your interactions consist of nothing but praise for one another without ever wanting to explore further, then it might be time to reevaluate what’s going on.
Another key sign is if either party begins avoiding talking about anything serious or makes excuses as soon as things start becoming too close for comfort. This kind of behavior suggests that neither person wants their feelings invested in the situation because they would prefer keeping it light and flirtatious instead of allowing themselves to become emotionally attached. While initially this dynamic may seem exciting, eventually it will lead nowhere fast since no real connection was established in the first place.
With these warning signs in mind, make sure that you’re aware of where your headspace is at before pursuing any potential relationships with someone else – whether platonic or romantic. It’s important not only to recognize when attraction turns into obsession with flattery but also protect yourself by setting boundaries accordingly so that you don’t end up feeling worse down the line!
Conclusion
If you find yourself constantly looking for compliments or feeling more satisfied when your partner is flattering you than when they’re simply expressing their love, it’s a sign that the relationship may have some underlying issues. It can be easy to get caught up in the idea of being flattered – after all, who doesn’t want to feel appreciated? But if this is happening at the expense of genuine connection and intimacy with your partner, then it might be time to reassess what kind of relationship you really want.
It’s important to remember that relationships require mutual respect and trust; without these things, flattery will only take us so far. When we prioritize flattery over everything else, we run the risk of missing out on true emotional connection and developing an unhealthy reliance on external validation. Flattery has its place but should not be relied upon as a substitute for real affection and understanding between two people.
At the end of the day, it’s up to each individual person to decide whether they are prioritizing flattery over deeper connections in their relationship. If this is something that resonates with you then don’t hesitate to reach out for help – talking through our feelings often helps us gain clarity on how best to move forward.
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