Men have always and will always be different than women. They respond differently to situations than we do, date differently, and interact differently. Instead of getting pissed off and asking your friends why men do the things they do, here’s a thought, why not honestly pull yourself out of what you want a guy to do and start understanding things on his terms?
We all have those friends or know of those people who seem to always attract the best men. They have no problem getting the right guy to commit, have awesome relationships with minimal drama, rarely complain about problems with the opposite sex, and have even mastered the art of breaking up seamlessly with minimal emotional damage. What do they do that’s so different from you? Here’s my observation:
5. She Takes The Time To Understand Him and His Specific Needs/Wants
I’m sorry if this is news to you, but you’re not the best thing ever created since the Internet and not every guy is going to be clamoring to be on #TeamYou. Some guys may not even be looking to ::gasp:: be on anybody’s team and may just want to have some fun. Understand the type of guy you’re dealing with, what they want, and, more importantly, if their interests even remotely match yours. Learn to assess if you may wasting your time chasing a guy who’s not on the same page as you from the beginning, accept whatever the answer is, and either move forward with said guy or move on to the next guy. The truth is whether the guy is a jerk or not doesn’t matter.
In short, stop blaming the guy for your lack of good judgement. Jerks don’t hide their qualities and usually are very upfront with us, we’re the ones who will take “I’m not looking for anything serious” and turn into “I’m not looking for anything serious, but would be open to something serious with you.” If you read those statements as virtually being the same thing, you must first understand why they’re not and stop trying to find scenarios where the first can mean the second.
4. She’s Knows How Not To Be Submissive, But She Can Still Share The Spotlight
Females who have mastered the art of having good relationships have found a good balance between being a doormat and being a high maintenance diva. They know how to both support their SO and how to challenge him in a way that helps him improve.
3. She Keeps Their Relationship Business Private
Honestly, what one sees on the outside of a good relationship may be only 10% of what may be actually going on. It’s not that the two are putting on a front, but that they have learned to deal with their problems (the same problems every all couples eventually face) without involving their friends and families. Guys admire this drama-free quality because nobody wants to be made a villain off of one disagreement and want to know that they can also be themselves without fear that the woman they are with will divulge private information meant for just her with all of her friends.
2. She’s Mastered The Art of Communicating With Her Man
Communication is key in any relationship but so is getting to know a person’s communication style. I usually don’t give the time of day to anyone that insists on texting me more than they call and my boyfriend has learned that I’m very bad with responding via text but will answer almost instantly to a phone call or at least make an effort to get in contact with him if I missed a call. I’ve learned to spread out the time we talk, as he’ll get a little annoyed if it’s just back and forth calling throughout the same day. Instead of trying to force your communication style on someone, compromise and find something that works for the two of you.
1. And the #1 Reason? She’s Just Cooler Than You
I kid, I kid. But that’s just the point. Learn to kid around a bit more and not be so serious about things. Just because a guy has taken you out a couple of times doesn’t mean he isn’t into you because he hasn’t made things official. If he’s enjoying himself and you like the time you two spend together then why add extra stress to a comfortable situation? Still keep seeing whoever else you’re seeing and keeping yourself open to new opportunities. Get to know the guy you’re interested in on a personal level and honestly find qualities in him that you like that make him Mr. Amazing to you. Sometimes, we give guys the title of Mr. Amazing without really even knowing them. If he’s into paint balling and you’ve never been, the cool girl says to potential Mr. Amazing let’s go paint balling next weekend while the average chick says nothing. Who’s actions are really more likely to get him?
About Carla Clunis
You can find more of Carla’s musings on love and relationships at www.theheartmalfunctions.com where she blogs about the ups and downs of dating and relating.
—— By: Carla Clunis
Are you wondering what’s so special about her good man that you don’t have? It could be anything from the way he treats her to how well he communicates. Whatever it is, there are probably a few key things she has in common with him that you lack when it comes to relationships. In this article, we’ll take a look at five reasons why she may have found herself a good man and why you haven’t yet.
Maybe your dating history isn’t quite as successful as hers or maybe you just don’t know where to start looking for someone who ticks all the right boxes. Either way, by understanding what makes a good relationship work, you can learn how to identify these qualities in people and attract them into your life.
We’ll explore some of the most important characteristics of healthy relationships, such as trustworthiness, kindness and respect – traits that both men and women should value equally if they want happy partnerships! Read on to find out more about why she may have landed Mr Right while you’ve been searching for love in all the wrong places.
Qualities Of A Good Man
She has a good man and you don’t because he possesses qualities that make him an ideal partner. He is honest, loyal, dependable, supportive, and understanding—all of which are essential for any relationship to thrive.
Honesty is fundamental in any successful relationship. A good man will always be truthful with his partner; never hiding anything or telling lies. He understands the importance of being authentic and open with her at all times. This allows her to trust him fully, knowing she can rely on what he says without question.
Loyalty plays a major role too; it makes someone feel secure in their partnership. Her guy will stand by her side no matter what obstacles they face together as a couple. She knows he won’t waver when things get tough because he’s committed to making their union work come rain or shine.
Being dependable is also key; if your lady can count on her better half then she’ll feel more connected to him than ever before. When she needs help with something, she knows he’ll be there for her no matter how big or small the ask may be. Whether it’s running errands or just listening to her worries, this kind of reliability builds strong foundations within any type of relationship.
Supportive partners nurture relationships through thick and thin—this means encouraging each other during both happy and sad moments alike. The right dude will have been there from day one offering comfort whenever life throws them curveballs along the way. Plus, having someone who believes in your dreams gives you room to grow while feeling safe enough to take risks too!
Finally, empathy is perhaps the most important quality a man can possess; it shows that he really listens and cares about what his girl has going on in life–emotionally and otherwise. Being able to understand another person’s perspective without judgment creates mutual respect between two people—something everyone deserves in order to build healthy bonds over time
Reasons For Her Successful Relationship
She has a successful relationship for many reasons, but these five stand out among the rest. Firstly, her partner is honest and loyal to her; he always speaks his truth without fear of consequence. He never wavers when it comes to standing by her side in times of need or stress. Secondly, he’s dependable—he shows up for her whenever she needs him and will go above and beyond what’s asked of him just to make sure she’s taken care of. Thirdly, he is supportive; no matter how hard life gets, he gives her strength with words of encouragement and understanding. Fourthly, he demonstrates empathy towards her emotions which allows them both to connect on a deeper level than they would otherwise be able to do. And lastly, their shared trust allows them to take risks together as a team while still feeling safe within their bond.
In short, she has a good man because he embodies qualities that create strong foundations for any type of relationship: honesty, loyalty, dependability, supportiveness, and empathy. Without such characteristics present in each party involved in a union, it can become incredibly difficult if not impossible for love to thrive over time.
Conclusion
It’s easy to look at someone else and compare their life with yours, especially when it comes to relationships. But the truth is that everyone has different experiences, and we can’t always know what goes on behind closed doors. It takes a lot of effort for two people to make a relationship work. When you see one couple succeed where another fails, it usually boils down to some key qualities in the good man that she found: kindness, respect, communication skills, commitment, and mutual trust. These are all important factors that help create a strong bond between two people.
The reality is that finding “the one” isn’t something that happens overnight; it takes time and dedication from both partners to build a successful relationship. If she has been fortunate enough to find such an amazing partner who possesses these essential traits and values then more power to her! You too can experience this kind of connection if you’re willing to put in the work and open yourself up emotionally. Don’t be discouraged by other couples’ successes — instead use them as motivation and inspiration so you can have your own happy ending someday soon!
We all deserve love and companionship in our lives but sometimes it just doesn’t happen right away. The most important thing is not to give up hope or settle for less than you deserve. With patience and perseverance, anything is possible — including finding the perfect guy for you! So keep searching until your heart finds its home – because deep down we all want somebody who loves us unconditionally just like she does!
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