There’s a difference between being in love with love and believing in it. I was never an avid fan of being in love with it as I always thought being in love with an idea is a surefire way to set you up for failure. Many of my past relationships where I felt some form of love fell apart not because that’s just how life is but because one or both of us decided we no longer wished to be with the other.
Did it hurt when the person making the decision to part ways wasn’t me?
Horribly. I can manage rejection from a stranger who may not know me all that well but managing rejection from someone who does know you is hard.
What happens to most of us after having to face this type of rejection?
We start to lose faith that the very thing we never should have been in love with in the first place (love) doesn’t work and is foolish to put effort into. We start to look at the all of the multitudes of failed relationships that surround us and say to ourselves that we are no different so why make love a priority. It’s foolish and eventually something will happen and the love will fade away.
If that couple couldn’t work, why would anyone I decide to love work?
Oftentimes, I think to myself what makes the difference between couples with staying power and the ones that fail. Was fate just working in their favor? Did their individual situations just allow for their relationship to be easier? What about the relationships that seem to have gone through hell and come out living their own version of heaven on earth…were they just lucky?
I’ve found that none of these things make the difference. What truly makes the difference are the individuals involved. Relationships last because two people choose to withstand the stuff life throws at us and they choose to face the hardships together instead of shutting down and forcing the other out.
The difference is YOU.
The difference isn’t only about you, but also about your attitude and who you allow yourself to give your time to vs. waste your time with. If there’s one lesson I retained from the chauvinistic ramblings of my father it was the notion that if a person wants to be with you, they will be. No question mark. No ellipsis. No comma. Just a straight PERIOD or exclamation point.
For love to conquer all, it requires all the work and energy you TWO have to withstand the many curve balls life throws at it. Love is an action and if both people ACT on their love for the other and take ACTION towards resolving problems TOGETHER why wouldn’t your relationship last. Cynicism is love’s greatest conqueror and with it no relationship will last. Unfortunately, cynicism has taken hold of the hearts and minds of many people who claim to be so in love with the idea of love.
About Carla Clunis
You can find more of Carla’s musings on love and relationships at www.theheartmalfunctions.com where she blogs about the ups and downs of dating and relating.
—— By: Carla Clunis
We’ve all been there: the heady rush of love that comes with a new relationship. You feel like you can do anything, be anyone, and it’s an incredible feeling. But then reality sets in; is this really true love? Or are you just in love with the idea of being in love? Relationships: Do You Believe In Love Or Are You Just In Love With It? That’s the question we’ll explore here.
From exploring our own feelings to understanding how others experience relationships differently, there are so many facets to consider when looking at this complex emotion. We’ll look at what makes up a healthy relationship, as well as which qualities tend to lead to longer-lasting partnerships. And finally, we’ll discuss why it’s important to make sure you’re not putting too much emphasis on the physical aspects of your connection—it may take more than chemistry for a relationship to last!
So join us on this journey into the depths of relationships and beyond. See if you can determine if your feelings for someone else are real or if you’re simply caught up in the moment. This article will offer plenty of insight about figuring out where your heart truly lies!
What Is Love?
Love can mean different things to different people. It’s often described as an emotion that brings joy, comfort, and connection. Some believe it’s a spiritual force that binds two people together or helps them find true happiness in life. Others see love as a way of expressing appreciation for another person and being devoted to them unconditionally. No matter what definition you use, one thing is certain: Love is powerful.
When we talk about relationships and love, the idea of falling in love usually comes up quickly. Falling in love with someone is both exciting and terrifying; it means opening yourself up to vulnerability and trusting another person with your heart. While there are no guarantees when it comes to relationships, taking risks can be rewarding if you’re willing to go through the highs and lows of romantic love.
At the end of the day, whether or not you believe in love really depends on your own personal experiences and outlook on life. For some, it might seem like an elusive dream while others may have seen firsthand how wonderful it can be when two people decide to take a chance on each other. Ultimately, only you can decide if you want to give yourself over to this amazing feeling or just enjoy its beauty from afar.
Is It Possible To Find True Love?
Many of us search for true love, but is it really possible to find? It may appear that some people have found the holy grail in their relationships, while others seem to be struggling. But no matter how hard we look or what kind of connections we make, there’s no guarantee that any one relationship will last forever.
It can take time and effort to cultivate a meaningful connection with someone else — one based on mutual respect and understanding. We must be willing to accept our own flaws as well as those of our partner so that both parties can grow together without feeling judged or controlled by each other. Ultimately, trust is key if you want your relationship to stand the test of time.
So whether it’s realistic or not depends on your perspective. Some might say true love exists and it’s just a matter of finding the right person who fits into your life perfectly; others feel strongly that it’s an idealistic concept that doesn’t truly exist in reality. Whatever the case may be, having faith in yourself and being open-minded can help you discover the type of relationship you desire most deeply.
In conclusion, I believe that love is a powerful emotion. It’s something we all want to experience and can be found in many forms. Whether it’s with family members, friends, or romantic partners, love has the capacity to bring joy and comfort into our lives. While some people may only be “in love” with the idea of being in a relationship, I feel that true love is out there for everyone if they’re willing to look for it. With an open heart and mind, it’s possible to find someone who will care deeply about you and accept you for who you are. The key is not giving up on finding the one person who makes your life complete!
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