What Does This Taking Things Slow Thing Really Mean

Here’s the scenario: You either just met a new dude or you are already in a relationship and one day he randomly says to you, “Baby, I just want to take things slow for right now.”

WOAH!!! HOLD ON!! WHHAATT!!! If you’re like any of the many females I know, you’re first conclusion is that this guy must really be playing games. Sayings like “taking things slow” and “let’s take a break” never translate into anything good in a new or old relationship.

For the purposes of this post, I’m going to assume that the said guy (or girl) genuinely wants to take things slow. The first thing you need to do is to determine if the guy genuinely needs this or is using it as an excuse because he is either a) not feeling you anymore or b) just wants to hit it and quit it over a period of time.

This can be the hardest part but this first step is integral to not only deciding what you should do moving forward but also what the outcome of the relationship will be. From experience, when a person wishes to genuinely take things slow they still want you around and will expect you to still be there for them.

I’m just going to say this right now. A person who wishes to put a halt on a relationship but still expects you to be around is functioning completely out of what they need or want. In other words, it is an entirely selfish act and, for however long they are feeling this way, you need to be on their terms or it won’t work. Any sign that you can not handle the space or any “extra stress” you may add to their already confusing state of mind will only push them further away. Ladies and gents, this means don’t nag them about it.

So what are you to do? The simple yet not so easy to put into practice answer is to ignore how you feel and push away any doubt in your mind that this person is playing games. Remember, this post is written under the assumption that they aren’t playing any games with you and that you have already determined that the need is genuine.

After you have kicked your feelings to the curb, be there for them. If a relationship functions regularly on a 50/50 balance, you are now holding up 90 -100% of it on your own. Many people can’t do that without complaint but if you can, the space that they need won’t last very long.

But honestly, how long are you supposed to wait and hold up the entire relationship by yourself?

Depends. If it’s a new relationship or something you are not as attached to, I would personally just let it go. If it’s something you’ve been in for awhile or have grown attached to, I personally give it between a week and three weeks. Anything longer for me warrants a break up.

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—— By: Carla Clunis

Have you ever been in a relationship and felt like your partner was taking things slow? It can be quite confusing and leave you feeling uncertain about the direction of the relationship. But what does this “taking things slow” thing really mean, anyway? In this article, we’ll explore the concept of taking things slowly in relationships and help you understand exactly what it means for both partners involved.

When two people decide to take their relationship at a slower pace, it often involves having honest conversations about expectations, communication styles, and boundaries. Taking things slowly allows couples to get to know each other better without rushing into anything too quickly or going too deep emotionally right off the bat. With time comes trust, which is essential when building any kind of lasting connection between two people.

It’s important to note that while taking things slowly may have different meanings depending on the couple involved, there are some universal truths that apply no matter who’s involved: respect for each other’s feelings, understanding one another’s needs, communicating openly and honestly with one another. All these aspects come together to create an environment where both partners feel safe and secure enough to build something real together over time – if that’s what they want out of the relationship.

Understanding The Concept

Taking things slow is a phrase commonly used when it comes to developing new relationships. It means that, rather than quickly diving into something serious and committing yourself with someone, you take the time to get to know them better before fully engaging in anything more long-term. This can be an important part of building trust in any relationship, as it gives both parties involved time to figure out if they are truly compatible or not.

The idea behind taking things slow is that it allows for people to explore potential connections at their own pace without feeling rushed or pressured. Moving too fast can lead to making hasty decisions which could impact your future negatively; by slowing down, you give yourself space to make sure that everything lines up correctly before taking the next step. Additionally, this also helps keep expectations realistic and manageable so there aren’t any surprises down the line.

Ultimately, how much time two people decide to spend together should depend on what feels right for them — some may want quick progression while others prefer a slower approach. As long as everyone involved communicates openly and honestly about where they stand and what they need from each other, then taking things slow can be beneficial for all parties involved.

Benefits Of Taking Things Slow

Taking things slow has its many advantages. Firstly, it allows both people involved to get to know each other on a deeper level without feeling rushed or pressured. This is especially important for developing trust and ensuring that the relationship will last in the long run. Additionally, slowing down can help prevent unrealistic expectations from forming while also giving both parties time to work out any issues they may have before taking the next step.

Furthermore, taking things slow gives couples an opportunity to explore their compatibility more thoroughly than if they had jumped right into something serious. It’s natural for some interests and values to differ between two people, but by allowing enough time to figure this out beforehand, couples can better assess whether they are truly compatible with one another or not.

Allowing yourself the space and freedom to move at your own pace when building relationships can be incredibly beneficial. With proper communication and understanding of boundaries, taking things slow can set you up for success in whatever path you choose going forward.

Conclusion

Taking things slow is a phrase that has become quite popular in relationships, but what does it really mean? Taking things slow can benefit relationships by allowing both parties to get to know each other without feeling overwhelmed or pressured. When done right, taking things slow can be beneficial for all involved and help create the foundation of a strong relationship.

What exactly does it mean though when people talk about taking things slow? Generally, it means understanding boundaries and respecting them, being patient as you get to know one another, not rushing into anything too quickly and talking openly about feelings and expectations. It’s important to take your time getting to know someone before jumping into something serious. This way, you have more information on which to base decisions instead of making snap judgments and potentially regretting them later.

Taking things slowly might feel like it’s slowing down progress in the relationship, but ultimately this will help build trust with your partner over time and is essential for long-term success. Being honest with yourself and your partner is key – if there are any doubts or worries then communicate these clearly so they can be dealt with before either party gets too invested in the relationship. With patience, communication and respect for boundaries, taking things slow could be just what the relationship needs!