Last week Tyrese was promoting the release of his new book “How to Get Out of Your Own Way” when he hit a publicity landmine on ‘The Wendy Williams Show.‘ He was caught in crossfire when he said “it’s expected of men to cheat.” Nobody wants to hear it but cheating is a social standard for men. It does not mean it is right to cheat on a lady but people aren’t surprised when a man has something extra on the side. Now-a-days, we are usually shocked when the man does not cheat. Many things have changed in favor of females in this post women’s rights movement era but men’s cheating privileges have remained the same.
A quick look at pop culture will show that Mr. Gibson was on point. Charlie Sheen catapulted to an idol of many guys for all the wrong reasons. Rather than complain about Tyrese’s comments, here are several suggestions to change this cultural standard:
The Player’s Way: Kids are not birthed as players, it is a learned behavior. Don’t teach kids foolishness.
Equal Player Rights: Rather than only viewing men as players, we can give women the same title. Let’s be honest when a woman is with many guys her label is usually “hoe.” Will we be comfortable with calling a woman a player?
Images Mean A Lot: We can act like words and images don’t affect how people act but women are often seen as objects that desensitize men’s actions. The boys from Jersey Shore were made heroes for “smashing” as many women as possible. Their female counterparts just watched and if they did participate they were immediately called whores. We cannot censor all entertainment and art but inappropriate works should not be displayed for youngsters.
Cheating by either sex is never a good thing but as of now, we expect guys to cheat. This is a social norm that will not change overnight.
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—— By: Staff
It’s a societal norm that men are expected to cheat. This idea has been debated since the early 2000s when actor and singer Tyrese Gibson declared in an interview with Vibe Magazine, “A man is nothing without cheating…He can’t help it; it’s natural instinct”. From this statement alone, one could deduce that he believes men should accept their urges as part of who they are and not be ashamed or judged for them. But how much truth is there to these words? In this article, we will explore whether society really does expect men to cheat on their partners and if so, why?
We have all heard stories about fathers telling sons to never let a woman know everything, implying that being unfaithful is somehow necessary for successful relationships. Many women also feel like infidelity is inevitable from the male perspective which leads us to ask: Is it a result of social conditioning or something deeper rooted within our nature? To answer this question, we must look at both biological and cultural influences that may shape our behavior towards monogamy and infidelity.
Ultimately, understanding what drives humans away from commitment may provide insight into why some people struggle with fidelity despite wanting monogamous partnerships. Are Tyrese’s comments right? Read on to find out!
Cultural Expectations Of Men
In many cultures, men are expected to be promiscuous and unfaithful. This has been the case for centuries, and is still seen in modern society today. The idea that a man should engage in multiple sexual relationships outside of his primary one is deeply rooted in cultural norms. It’s something that men often feel obligated to do, both out of pressure from their peers and as an expression of masculinity.
This notion can have damaging effects on romantic partnerships between men and women. Women may fear betrayal or doubt whether their partner will remain faithful if they enter into a relationship with him. There may also be feelings of jealousy or guilt associated with this expectation, making it difficult for couples to build trust. Additionally, the double standard that exists when it comes to cheating further complicates things; while infidelity by either party is frowned upon, there tends to be more societal backlash against women who cheat than men.
These expectations placed on men create tension in relationships and prevent them from developing meaningful connections with their partners. Without real emotional intimacy, successful long-term partnerships become much harder to maintain and sustain. Unfortunately, these gender roles persist despite being outdated and unfair — but it doesn’t mean we can’t break away from them together and challenge ourselves to find better ways forward.
Factors Contributing To Cheating
It is important to understand the factors that lead men to cheat if we are to challenge these cultural expectations. While many people assume that it’s simply a matter of desire, there may be other underlying causes at play as well. For example, feelings of inadequacy or insecurity can drive someone to seek validation from external sources — such as engaging in multiple sexual relationships outside of their primary one. Additionally, stress and mental health issues may also contribute; when facing difficult life circumstances, some individuals find solace in affairs rather than addressing the root cause of their problems.
The consequences of infidelity can be severe. Not only do they bring emotional pain for all involved, but they can also have long-term repercussions on a relationship’s stability and trustworthiness. Cheating should never be taken lightly or excused because “men will be men” — this just reinforces outdated gender roles that need to change. Instead, both parties must work together to build mutual understanding and respect within the partnership so that cheating does not become an issue going forward.
To create healthier relationships between men and women, society needs to move away from traditional views about masculinity and female fidelity. We must recognize that partners come with different wants and needs which need to be met without judgement or suspicion. When couples learn how to talk openly about challenges in their relationship instead of resorting to extramarital affairs, then real intimacy can start blossoming once again.
Conclusion
In conclusion, it’s clear that men are expected to cheat by societal standards. This expectation is rooted in cultural norms and gender roles that have been reinforced for generations. Men may feel a sense of entitlement or pressure from other males, which can lead them to make decisions they wouldn’t otherwise make.
We need to challenge these expectations by having open conversations about the various dynamics at play when it comes to cheating. We must also break down traditional gender roles and create an environment where all people are responsible for their own actions and held accountable for the consequences of those choices. Doing so will help ensure that everyone has the freedom to make individual decisions without fear of judgement or shame from society.
It’s up to us as individuals, communities, and cultures to foster a healthier approach towards relationships and reduce this damaging stereotype about men that Tyrese was right about. By creating more acceptance around different relationship models, we can start moving away from the outdated idea that men should be expected to cheat.
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