Texting: The Relationship Killer

At one point the texting craze was solely a teen fad. Teens from all over were observed texting back and forth with their bff’s and boyfriends or girlfriends. Lately, the texting phenomenon has become more of an adult past time, and not in a good way. Back in the day, when a man or a woman was cheating, they would sneak away to talk on the phone in the closet, the bathroom, or even in the car. Now text messaging has become the blame for the demise of many marriages and relationships. It is claimed that the downfall of Eva Longoria and Tony Parker’s marriage is due in part to excessive text messages exchanged between Tony and a mutual friend of the couple’s. Texting even played a major role in the demise of Detroit Mayor Kwame Kilpatrick’s political career. With so many people committing the same bonehead act, one has to ask, why would you want to put your dirt in writing? Depending on the cell phone carrier, text messages are not secure and can be retrieved when necessary. Text messages are often used in divorce proceedings as evidence. Yet, we still have people texting and putting their betrayal in writing.

So, where does the fault lie with the text/cheating? Is it disrespectful for a woman to text a married man late at night, even though she claims to only be his “friend?” Is it the man’s fault for not putting an end to it or drawing boundaries, or is it the woman’s fault for not respecting the sanctity of marriage? Personally, I believe the fault lies with both parties. If the shoe were on the other foot, no one would want their man or woman to sit up in the bed and text back and forth with anyone of the opposite sex. So, in light of all that has happened to people’s careers and lives due to texting (let’s not forget that an alleged text message is what lead to the whole Chris Brown/Rihanna fiasco), will it ever end? Probably not, people will continue to text their dirt back and forth, plan their booty calls, end their marriages, and end up with carpal tunnel in the process!
—— By: Tiffany Haggerty


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