You know he is seeing someone else, he says “I’m confused”, yet at the same time tell you he loves you and can’t stop thinking of you. So you wait for him to call and hope he’ll make time out of his busy schedule to see you. You hope he will change. Sound familiar? You cancel plans to be with him, who knows when will be the next time you will see him. Then you snap out of this irrational behavior and remind yourself to stop calling him or even delete his number, remove him as your friend and his friends from Facebook, Myspace, etc. Days, weeks have gone by and you seem to have kept yourself distracted, but slowly start going back to your old behavior. The cycle goes on. You rationalize, make excuses for him because he makes you feel good, when you are together everything seems perfect.
“Yesterday I told myself I was going to be okay, gonna start a new day, truly happy, I was gonna take control of me, but eventually reality hit me mentally, physically, emotionally and I opened my eyes and realized that I was still being taken for a constant ride on your emotional roller coaster., loving you ain’t nothing healthy, loving you was never good for me.” – Vivian Grean “Emotional Rollercoaster”
STOP! It’s emotionally draining you and mentally exhausting. I know it’s easier said than done, but take a good look at what you are doing to yourself. Realize you deserve someone that will give you time all the time, not by appointment only. This will go on as long as you allow it to continue. Only time will tell and show you this is the best solution. Don’t put yourself in a predicament in which you feel stupid or guilty for calling someone or wanting to be with the person. That is not how a relationship works. Take Vivian Green’s advice; accept that you are not meant to be together in a mature way. Don’t stay bitter or angry. This way you are able to move on and even meet a man that treats you the way you deserve to be treated.
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—— By: Karina Martinez
Have you ever been in a relationship that was like riding an emotional rollercoaster? You can’t seem to get off the ride, no matter how hard you try. You just keep going up and down with nothing but uncertainty about where it will end. If this sounds familiar then chances are you’re being played – and it’s time to take action!
Do you feel like your emotions are constantly on a loop of excitement, dread, joy and disappointment? Does your partner make sudden changes that leave you feeling confused and unsure of what comes next? Do they often ignore or avoid topics when things become too serious? These may be signs that someone is playing games with your heart.
If so, don’t despair – there are steps you can take to recognize if someone is taking advantage of your feelings and learn how to protect yourself from further manipulation. In this article “Emotional Rollercoaster: Are You Being Played?” we’ll discuss why people play games in relationships and provide tips for dealing with such behavior. So read on to find out what could be happening in your love life – and how to put a stop to it!
Signs Of An Unstable Relationship
Relationships can be a rollercoaster. One minute, you’re feeling on top of the world and the next, your heart is in your throat. If you’re questioning whether or not you’re being played, it’s important to recognize signs that may indicate an unstable relationship.
One major sign of an unhealthy connection is when one person has all the power over the other. You might find yourself constantly making changes for your partner while they don’t make any effort at compromise. Your values may become secondary as their desires take precedence. Ultimately, this creates an unbalanced dynamic where only one person feels heard and respected.
Another red flag would be if communication becomes difficult or nonexistent when trying to resolve issues in the relationship. It could be a situation where your partner won’t talk about certain topics without becoming defensive or angry. This type of behavior often prevents effective conversations from happening and keeps both partners stuck in patterns of misunderstanding and mistrust.
If these warning signs are present in your relationship, it’s possible that someone is manipulating you through fear tactics and emotional manipulation. Before things get worse, it’s best to assess what’s going on so that appropriate steps can be taken towards restoring balance within the partnership.
Identifying Manipulative Behavior
It’s not always easy to identify when someone is trying to manipulate you. The subtle tactics of emotional blackmail can be hard to recognize and often leave us feeling confused or unclear about what’s going on in a relationship. However, it’s important to pay attention as these signs could indicate that something isn’t right.
One way people use manipulation to get their own way is by guilt-tripping their partner into making decisions they don’t really want to make. This might come in the form of comments such as “If you loved me, you would do this for me.” It’s also common for manipulators to try and turn things around so that they appear like the victim rather than taking responsibility for their actions. They may even blame you for events which were out of your control, or twist facts in order to make themselves look better than they are.
Recognizing if someone is manipulating you requires being able to differentiate between healthy communication and unhealthy behavior. If your conversations with your partner keep veering off track or never seem to resolve anything, take some time apart from each other and reassess what type of dynamic exists between the two of you. Taking action now will help prevent any further damage down the line and give both parties an opportunity to build trust again.
Conclusion
The signs of an unstable relationship can be hard to spot, and even more difficult to deal with. It’s important to recognize when you’re being manipulated or taken advantage of in a romantic relationship. Being aware of the warning signs helps you protect yourself from potential heartache.
We must remember that no one should ever feel obligated to stay in a situation where they are not respected or valued. If your partner is making you feel like less than who you truly are, it may be time to move on and find someone else who will treat you as the amazing person that you are.
No matter what kind of rollercoaster ride we might experience in our relationships, always remember that we have the power to take control of our own lives and make decisions for ourselves. We deserve love and respect from those around us, so don’t let anyone play with your emotions – stand up for yourself!
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