Women: Is the Cheating Really About Us?

Well, we’ve explored this topic many times over and we all know that cheating has been going on since the beginning of time. Lately though, it seems there is a different “cheater” exposed almost on a weekly basis. We all know about Tiger Woods, Jesse James, and Tiki Barber but now a different name has been thrown into the pot. Actress Garcelle Beauvais-Nilon of NYPD Blue fame and The Jamie Foxx Show has recently uncovered a five year affair being carried on by her husband and agent, Mike Nilon and an unknown female in Chicago. According to Page Six of the New York Post, Beauvais-Nilon sent an email to various friends and colleagues with the subject line “Tiger Woods/Jesse James/Mike Nilon”. Then, Beauvais-Nilon went on to write, “What do they have in common…..I found out today the MY husband of almost nine years has been having an affair for five years with some slut in Chicago. I am devastated!!! And I have been duped!! Our boys don’t deserve this!” The couple has two-year old twin boys together, Jax and Jaid, while Beauvais-Nilon also has a son from a previous marriage. Beauvais-Nilon also went on to issue the following statement, “My focus at this time is on my kids and healing the pain. There will be no further comment.”

Women go through a plethora of emotions when the betrayal of our mate is revealed. After we’re done with the anger and frustration, we start wondering if it was something that we did or did not do for our man. Is there something that he sees in this other person that he doesn’t see in me? The questions go on until we either drive ourselves crazy or finally decide to move on. Bottom line, a grown person is going to do exactly as they please regardless. No matter how much love, support, and affection you give this person, if they want to cheat then they’re going to cheat. Sometimes it may be about us but most often it’s not. Most men like the thrill of knowing that they can still attract someone else, or the rush of knowing that they’re doing something that they shouldn’t be doing and seemingly getting away with it. Ladies, we can’t always fault ourselves for the unfaithful actions of our men. —— By: Tiffany Haggerty


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