Well, we’ve explored this topic many times over and we all know that cheating has been going on since the beginning of time. Lately though, it seems there is a different “cheater” exposed almost on a weekly basis. We all know about Tiger Woods, Jesse James, and Tiki Barber but now a different name has been thrown into the pot. Actress Garcelle Beauvais-Nilon of NYPD Blue fame and The Jamie Foxx Show has recently uncovered a five year affair being carried on by her husband and agent, Mike Nilon and an unknown female in Chicago. According to Page Six of the New York Post, Beauvais-Nilon sent an email to various friends and colleagues with the subject line “Tiger Woods/Jesse James/Mike Nilon”. Then, Beauvais-Nilon went on to write, “What do they have in commonâ¦..I found out today the MY husband of almost nine years has been having an affair for five years with some slut in Chicago. I am devastated!!! And I have been duped!! Our boys don’t deserve this!” The couple has two-year old twin boys together, Jax and Jaid, while Beauvais-Nilon also has a son from a previous marriage. Beauvais-Nilon also went on to issue the following statement, “My focus at this time is on my kids and healing the pain. There will be no further comment.”
Women go through a plethora of emotions when the betrayal of our mate is revealed. After we’re done with the anger and frustration, we start wondering if it was something that we did or did not do for our man. Is there something that he sees in this other person that he doesn’t see in me? The questions go on until we either drive ourselves crazy or finally decide to move on. Bottom line, a grown person is going to do exactly as they please regardless. No matter how much love, support, and affection you give this person, if they want to cheat then they’re going to cheat. Sometimes it may be about us but most often it’s not. Most men like the thrill of knowing that they can still attract someone else, or the rush of knowing that they’re doing something that they shouldn’t be doing and seemingly getting away with it. Ladies, we can’t always fault ourselves for the unfaithful actions of our men. —— By: Tiffany Haggerty
Cheating is a betrayal of trust and can have devastating consequences for all involved. But why do women cheat? Is it really about us, or does the answer lie elsewhere? In this article we look at what drives female infidelity, exploring the factors that contribute to cheating behavior in women. We’ll consider the role society plays in shaping our attitude towards infidelity, as well as examining whether there may be more fundamental reasons behind why some women choose to stray from their partner. With insights from experts and real life stories, this article will provide readers with an understanding of one of the most complex issues facing relationships today. So if you’re looking for answers on why women cheat, read on!
Definition Of Cheating
Cheating is a complicated issue that can have many definitions. When it comes to relationships, cheating usually refers to one partner breaking the trust of another by engaging in intimate or sexual activities with someone outside of the relationship. It’s important to note that these activities don’t necessarily have to be physical—emotional cheating counts too. Cheating isn’t limited to heterosexual relationships either; any two people who are emotionally connected and consider themselves to be in an exclusive partnership may feel betrayed if their boundaries are crossed.
When it comes down to it, cheating often has more to do with power dynamics than anything else. People cheat because they want something different from what they already have: attention, validation, excitement, etc. They engage in behavior that could potentially hurt their partners as a way of gaining those things for themselves without considering how their actions will affect others involved. This type of selfishness is hard for many women (and men) to grapple with when faced with infidelity within a relationship.
The truth is that accountability lies squarely on the person who cheated rather than on their partner; no matter how much blame we put on ourselves, there is nothing we can do about our partners’ choices but move forward according to our own values and beliefs.
Reasons For Infidelity
It’s difficult to pinpoint exactly why someone would choose to cheat on their partner, but there are some common underlying issues. People often turn to infidelity when they feel unfulfilled in the relationship or lack connection with their partner. They might also be dealing with unresolved trauma from past relationships, mental health challenges such as depression or anxiety, or even just a desire for something new and exciting that is lacking in the current partnership. In any case, it’s important to remember that cheating doesn’t necessarily have anything to do with us; it could simply be a reflection of our partner’s own struggles and needs.
On the other hand, sometimes people who engage in unfaithful behavior may not realize how deeply hurtful it can be for their partners—or worse yet, they don’t care. This type of selfishness and disregard for another person’s feelings can lead to confusion and pain among both parties involved. It can cause women (and men) to question themselves and doubt if they are deserving of love and respect from their partners.
However, this kind of self-doubt isn’t productive nor healthy; instead we should focus on accepting ourselves for who we are regardless of what happened between us and our partners. We all deserve understanding, empathy, validation and unconditional love no matter what mistakes were made along the way.
Conclusion
When it comes to cheating, women can often feel like they are the ones being wronged. But in reality, infidelity is rarely about them. It’s usually an issue of insecurity or a lack of communication between partners.
Ultimately, understanding why someone might cheat isn’t going to make dealing with it any easier; however, it can help us understand that we aren’t to blame for our partner’s actions. We may be hurt and angry but focusing on ourselves instead of trying to control their behavior can help us heal and move forward.
At its core, cheating has nothing to do with gender and everything to do with unresolved issues within a relationship. While there is no excuse for dishonesty or betrayal, acceptance and compassion will always serve you better than anger and resentment. When faced with this kind of situation, remember – you are not alone and it doesn’t have anything to do with you.
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