Is Texting Ruining The Dating Process?

In a time where technology is basically used for everything you can say it has become a huge part of the average American’s life. You don’t even have to carry on real life conversations anymore since they all seem to be as easy as a click of a button. This leads me to my question. Is texting ruining the dating process? And if so, how can we incorporate texting to make it more interesting?

I remember a time where you would meet a guy, exchange information and actually get to hear his voice. It’s when those first couple of phone calls goes on to the wee hours in the morning just getting to know each other. Finding out what that person’s favorite color, favorite food, what makes them laugh, what makes them angry, what their passions are, and what their goals are. All the things people fail to find out because they lack those conversations. I ask myself does this even happen anymore? With everyone on these social networking sites such as Myspace, Tagged, Twitter, and even Facebook; now it makes it so impersonal to get to know someone. Half the time people are fabricating who they really are and you never even know.

Then we have cell phones with the texting, BBM’s (blackberry users), AIM’s, Google chat, etc. I don’t know who started this rumor that women would rather talk through text then actually receiving a phone call but it’s not true. Women actually love getting phone calls from the guy they’re excited that they just met. Unfortunately, it’s either men have gotten lazy or they just don’t know a phone call when getting to know a woman is way better than a text any day. Don’t be confused; texting and all that other stuff can be fun as well if done correctly. So I’m going to set the record straight on some Do’s and Don’ts when texting a lady!

1. Don’t text me in place of the first getting to know you phone call.
1. Do text me the next day letting me know it was nice to meet me.

2. Don’t text me sexual thoughts you had of me after knowing me for only a month. We not that cool!
2. Do text me something sweet that is also respectful that you think will put a smile on my face.

3. Don’t text me or call me for that matter after 10pm if that is the only time your fingers know my number. If that is the only time you have available to talk to me you got the wrong one here.
3. Do call or text me nice morning greetings to start my day off.

4. Don’t text me if you want to ask me on a date?
4. Do call me if you want to ask me on a date.

5. Don’t text me to have a serious conversation. Really how serious can it be through text?
5. Do call me if you have something serious to talk about. It’s easier to read a person’s voice and how they communicate when you can actually hear their voice.

So guys this post is not to scare you about texting, it’s just to let you know what a lady expects. Now if you are trying to attract little girls then those shenanigans might work but trust a real woman would not expect anything less! —— By: Summer Terry


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