Relationships: Being In Love With Love vs. Believing In It

There’s a difference between being in love with love and believing in it. I was never an avid fan of being in love with it as I always thought being in love with an idea is a surefire way to set you up for failure. Many of my past relationships where I felt some form of love fell apart not because that’s just how life is but because one or both of us decided we no longer wished to be with the other.

Did it hurt when the person making the decision to part ways wasn’t me?
Horribly. I can manage rejection from a stranger who may not know me all that well but managing rejection from someone who does know you is hard.

What happens to most of us after having to face this type of rejection?
We start to lose faith that the very thing we never should have been in love with in the first place (love) doesn’t work and is foolish to put effort into. We start to look at the all of the multitudes of failed relationships that surround us and say to ourselves that we are no different so why make love a priority. It’s foolish and eventually something will happen and the love will fade away.

If that couple couldn’t work, why would anyone I decide to love work?
Oftentimes, I think to myself what makes the difference between couples with staying power and the ones that fail. Was fate just working in their favor? Did their individual situations just allow for their relationship to be easier? What about the relationships that seem to have gone through hell and come out living their own version of heaven on earth…were they just lucky?

I’ve found that none of these things make the difference. What truly makes the difference are the individuals involved. Relationships last because two people choose to withstand the stuff life throws at us and they choose to face the hardships together instead of shutting down and forcing the other out.

The difference is YOU.
The difference isn’t only about you, but also about your attitude and who you allow yourself to give your time to vs. waste your time with. If there’s one lesson I retained from the chauvinistic ramblings of my father it was the notion that if a person wants to be with you, they will be. No question mark. No ellipsis. No comma. Just a straight PERIOD or exclamation point.

For love to conquer all, it requires all the work and energy you TWO have to withstand the many curveballs life throws at it. Love is an action and if both people ACT on their love for the other and take ACTION towards resolving problems TOGETHER why wouldn’t your relationship last. Cynicism is love’s greatest conquerer and with it no relationship will last. Unfortunately, cynicism has taken hold of the hearts and minds of many people who claim to be so in love with the idea of love.

About Carla Clunis
You can find more of Carla’s musings on love and relationships at www.theheartmalfunctions.com where she blogs about the ups and downs of dating and relating.

—— By: Carla Clunis

Love is a powerful emotion that can make us feel alive and incredibly happy. However, sometimes we get so caught up in the idea of being in love or believing in it that we forget to appreciate its true meaning. Relationships: Being In Love With Love vs. Believing In It explores how these two concepts can be both beneficial and detrimental when forming relationships.

The concept of being “in love with love” involves someone wanting to experience all the wonderful emotions associated with falling for another person without actually committing themselves emotionally. This type of relationship often results in people becoming obsessed with finding their perfect partner and avoiding any real connection with anyone else. On the other hand, believing in love involves having faith that your feelings towards someone are real and lasting, no matter what obstacles may come between you and them.

Both of these approaches have certain advantages and disadvantages which will be discussed further throughout this article. Ultimately, it’s important to remember that while there are different ways to express our affection, understanding the difference between being “in love with love” versus truly believing in it is essential for developing healthy relationships.

Understanding The Difference

Love is a complex emotion that can be difficult to understand. We often confuse being in love with believing in it, but the two concepts are not the same. Being in love involves an intense emotional attachment and connection between two people, while believing in love implies having faith or trust in its power regardless of personal experience.

In order to truly comprehend these differences, we must first consider what each concept really means. To be ‘in love’ with someone typically refers to romantic feelings or attractions towards them – admiration, desire, passion and other strong emotions associated with intimacy. It also involves an element of commitment: both parties have invested time and energy into building a relationship together which they don’t want to see end. On the other hand, when one believes ‘in’ love they are referring more to their belief system – their idea that despite potential hardships, life-long relationships are still possible; that true companionship exists and should be embraced rather than feared.

The distinction between these two concepts is important because how you view relationships will shape your experiences within them. While falling for somebody brings about great joy and moments of blissful happiness, it’s easy to forget that all relationships require work if they’re going to last long-term; this is where believing ‘in’ love comes into play by providing reassurance during tough times. Ultimately then, it’s crucial to recognize the difference between these two ideas so that our expectations remain realistic yet hopeful at the same time. By doing so we can ensure greater success as well as satisfaction from any type of union!

Benefits And Risks Of Each Approach

When it comes to relationships, there are both risks and benefits associated with being in love or believing in it. For example, if someone is ‘in love’ they may be more willing to overlook certain behaviors that ultimately can have a negative effect on their connection; conversely, when one believes ‘in’ love they’re more likely to evaluate potential partners objectively without allowing emotions to cloud judgment.

On the other hand, those who choose to believe ‘in’ love often end up staying in unhealthy partnerships for much longer than necessary due to their unwavering hope for things to work out. Additionally, not having an emotional attachment can make it difficult for them to fully commit themselves which could lead to feelings of loneliness or regret down the line. Meanwhile, those who fall ‘in love’ too quickly might find themselves feeling overwhelmed by intense emotions and unable to cope when faced with challenging circumstances – such as infidelity or incompatibility issues.

Overall then, no matter which approach we take towards relationships there will always be some sort of risk involved. It’s important that we use our best judgment while also remaining open-minded so that we can create strong connections based on mutual respect and understanding rather than impulsive desires or unrealistic expectations.

Conclusion

In conclusion, it’s important to understand the difference between being in love with love and believing in it. Being in love with love can bring a sense of enthusiasm and excitement to our relationships, but we need to be aware of the risks involved. We may become so enamored by the idea that we forget about practical considerations like compatibility or mutual respect. On the other hand, if we believe in love without truly experiencing it, we might miss out on all its joys.

That said, I think both approaches have their merits – as long as they’re balanced. It’s great to stay open-minded and optimistic when looking for potential partners, but also important to use good judgement too. If you can find this balance then you should be able to make wise decisions while still enjoying those beautiful moments of romantic bliss! As clichéd as it sounds, finding true love comes from having faith in yourself and others; don’t let either approach take away from that belief system.