There’s something about the idea of “stability” that never sat well with me. Maybe I’m too young to understand its importance or the possibility of what “stability” really looks like. Maybe I’ve thrived so much on jumping from opportunity to opportunity that instability has become all that is recognizable to me. One thing I do know…neither Mike or I are “stable” by anyone’s definitions.
When a person says they seek someone with “stability”….what does that even mean? Even a man with a good job, nice home, sane mind, and sizable income can present their own set of challenges when introduced to a female of the same caliber. However, so many of us hold on so tightly to the term “stability” that the term cripples our relationships when we notice even the slightest crack in the “stability” of our partners.
Are we so afraid of instability that we run away when things get too serious and more cracks start to appear?
Let’s step away from relationships with significant others for a minute and even look at the relationships we have with our family members. The “stability” there is never in how well or smoothly the relationship is going. If we were honest with ourselves, we’d probably even find that there is no more tumultuous relationship than that between siblings, or parents and their children, or even cousins. However, these are also our most stable.
Whoever said that a good relationship equaled smooth sailing until death do you two part…lied. They sold you a bridge in Brooklyn at top value and forgot to hand you the title. I can’t count the number of times that my boyfriend has done or said something that irritated almost every nerve in my body but I also can’t count the number of times he has made me smile or made my day brighter just by being a part of it.
Through all the arguing, disagreements, misunderstandings, utter frustrations, etc. there’s something that sparks when all of that instability has settled that brings every good relationship back to a good place. You can go from being “that couple” to being “the couple” and the only stability necessary is knowing that the two of you can and do share something special with the other. Don’t let the messiness of being together taint your view of what’s real.
About Carla Clunis
You can find more of Carla’s musings on love and relationships at www.theheartmalfunctions.com where she blogs about the ups and downs of dating and relating.
—— By: Carla Clunis
When it comes to relationships, one thing is for sure: they are messy. Whether you’re in a new relationship or have been together with your partner for years, there will be moments where things get complicated and confusing. It can feel like no matter how hard we try to make our relationships work, something always gets in the way. That’s why truth #387 states that “relationships are messy” – because no two people ever experience their partnership the same way.
The messiness of relationships may seem daunting at times, but understanding this truth has its benefits. By accepting that relationships take effort and compromise to make them successful, couples can learn how to navigate through any issues they face along the way. With an open dialogue between partners and trust in each other’s intentions, even difficult conversations don’t have to lead to arguments or resentment.
In this article, we explore exactly what it means when someone says “relationships are messy” and dive into all the ways both parties can embrace this reality without feeling overwhelmed or defeated by it. We hope by reading this article you gain insight into just how intricate and complex relationships can be – but also understand that ultimately making them thrive relies on communication and commitment from both sides!
What Makes Relationships Complex?
Relationships are anything but simple. They require a great deal of work and can be incredibly complex, often involving multiple people with different perspectives, values, and needs. It’s no wonder that relationships can become messy at times!
So what makes them so complicated? Much of the complexity stems from two key factors: communication and expectations. When either factor is misaligned or not properly discussed, conflicts can arise quickly. Communication is especially important for couples because it helps to ensure both parties feel heard and understood by one another. Additionally, expectations within a relationship need to be established early on in order for everyone involved to know where they stand. Having honest conversations about these matters may seem uncomfortable initially, but it’s essential for building strong foundations between partners.
All this being said, even when we do our best to communicate effectively and manage our expectations realistically – relationships still have their ups and downs. But if we keep open lines of dialogue alive and continue working together as a team, then any obstacle can be overcome with grace and understanding.
Strategies For Navigating Relationship Challenges
No matter how hard we try, challenges will inevitably arise in relationships. But it’s how we navigate them that determines the success of our partnership. To help us get through these difficult times with ease, here are some strategies for navigating relationship challenges:
First and foremost, stay present. It can be easy to slip into a space of blaming or criticism when things don’t go as planned, but it’s important to remember that both parties have their own valid perspectives and motivations. Taking the time to listen and empathize with one another will foster greater understanding between partners and encourage collaboration rather than competition.
Additionally, take breaks if needed. Relationships require energy – so give yourselves permission to step away from moments of tension by taking regular breaks throughout your day-to-day interactions. This will allow each person involved time to process their emotions without pressure or judgement before returning back to the conversation at hand.
Finally, practice patience and kindness towards yourself and your partner whenever possible. Remind yourselves that no two people are perfect; everyone makes mistakes along the way! When conflicts do arise, think about ways you can learn together instead of pointing fingers at one another – this attitude shift is key for creating healthy connections over time.
Conclusion
It’s true – relationships are often messy. But with a bit of effort, understanding, and commitment, it is possible to navigate these complexities and make the most out of your relationship.
In order for this to happen, both parties need to be willing to work together and understand that there may be bumps along the way. It doesn’t have to be perfect all the time; in fact, some healthy disagreements can actually strengthen a bond between two people. Above all else, remember that communication is key when it comes to navigating any kind of challenge within a relationship.
The truth is that relationships take work and patience but if you’re ready for it then they can also bring joy into our lives like nothing else can. So don’t let yourself get overwhelmed by the messiness of them – embrace it as part of life and use it as an opportunity to grow closer together with your partner!
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