Since her somewhat public split from her ex, drummer Lil’ John Roberts, who she has a one-year-old son with, Jill Scott took her herself off the dating market, vowing a period of celibacy. Now with a new outlook on life and after shedding 63 lbs, the R&B songstress is ready to get back on the playing field.
“The whole celibacy thing, you could throw that out the window,” She tells Us Weekly. “That’s over.”
But don’t expect the “So In Love” singer to just jump in the sack with anyone. This single lady is looking for the right kind of love.
“I don’t have physical intimacy until at least the fifth date,” she says. “So I can get to know who I’m dealing with and they can get to know me. And with my schedule, five dates can take three or four months! It just gives me a chance to get to know the person. So we talk on the phone pretty much every day or maybe we Skype or have a date and we have fun. I’m getting to know someone so I know if they’re crazy or not.
Scott credits her dating rules to the “mistakes” she made in her previous relationships; trying to side step any future blunders.
“I just don’t want to waste my time. I’m just trying to look at the mistakes that I made,” she adds. “I got so caught up in the flesh and I’m not even allowing someone to get to know the best parts of me. I’m a single girl in the world, but if I don’t have some standards then I can be making the same mistakes that I made in the past. I do want love. Genuine love. And sometimes sex can get in the way.”