Sexy is all in the eye of the beholder. There’s nothing like a mini dress to show your legs off or a low cut shirt to show off the “girls.” However, there are some clear rules about being sexy that needs to be explicitly discussed. From showing too much to trying too hard, we’ve all seen many try to be sexy and it just ended up being bad. In case you know someone like this or you are that someone, we’ve got you covered.
Show One Thing, Cover The Other
Here’s a very old rule that needs to be reiterated. If you’re going to show your legs off, cover up your chest. If you’re showing off your back, keep your front covered up. If one part of your body is in great shape, then flaunt it. But if you’re showing me all of your parts then you’re taking attention away from that one great part. Even if your entire body is in incredible shape, you taint it when you try to show it all at once. That’s like walking around telling everyone how much money you make. It’s just tasteless. Wear something to show off that one body part that you’ve been blessed with or worked so hard on. Spare us the rest.
Imagination Increases Intrigue
Showing too much leaves little to the imagination. Imagination is sexy. Sex appeal is 50% of what you got and 50% of what people think you’ve got. If showing off everything, then is it really even worth having? The guy is always going to talk and be interested in the girl who is only showing off her best feature before the girl who’s showing everything. Why? Because the girl showing everything has made herself overly available. If anyone can have you, then why should he want you? Not everyone can make him use his imagination. Be the kind of girl that makes his mind wonder.
Trying Too Hard? He Can Tell
There’s nothing sexier than confidence. It’s the best accessory. It’s also something you can’t fake. No matter how little your clothes are, no matter how much you’re showing, it’ll never be as powerful as your confidence. Don’t get confidence confused with attention needy. When you’re desperate for attention, guys can tell. Despair is always evident. Ever gone to the gas station with your hair thrown up with no make up wearing sweats and a man has approached you? It’s because you were being yourself. Don’t force the sexy, just be. Women are sexiest when they’re not even trying.
Moral of the story: Sexiness has nothing at all to do with being naked. It’s all about just being. Most times you need to leave things underneath, so they can wonder what’s beneath it. Wear what compliments you and your body to exude the kind of confidence that can’t be ignored. Sexiness comes from the mind, sex comes from the body.
Anybody can have sex. Not everybody can be sexy.
—— By: Mattie James